Sometimes getting out the door feels like preparing for battle. But, starting with a simple change can reduce the drama. Here’s the trick: give them choices.
Tell your child, "We're leaving in 10 minutes. Do you want to wear your red shoes or the green ones?" (Resist the urge to ask if they're ready—because they never are.)
Why the Drama?
Kids love routine. Change it and the world ends—at least temporarily. They find security in knowing what happens next. So when leaving the house isn't a regular part of their schedule, expect resistance.
Practical Solutions
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Countdowns Work
- Give a countdown: "We’re leaving in 10 minutes, 5 minutes, okay, it’s time to go." It’s surprising how effective this is, even though I didn’t believe it in the beginning.
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Create a Leaving Routine
- Say, "Let's put Benny Bear in your backpack. He can come with us." Give them a friend to accompany them (even if it's just a plush toy).
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Choices, Choices
- Ask them if they'd prefer to hop out like a frog or walk like a dinosaur. Fair warning: this method might require a bit more time (or energy), but you've saved yourself the meltdown.
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Quick Distraction
- If a crisis is looming, distract them with a game: "Can you find five red things before we leave the living room?" It’s silly but shifts their focus.
Real Scenario
Picture this: It’s Monday morning, and you need to get them to the daycare by 8:00 AM. You remind them: "In 5 minutes, we’re putting on our shoes." Of course, they pretend not to hear. Here comes the choice: "Do you want the green shoes or should I pick them?" They might resist, but giving them the illusion of control often works. I still mess this up now and then, but when it works, it saves my sanity.
A Small Action
Try setting a timer today. Maybe use an app or the oven timer—whatever is at hand. The first—or maybe the third—time it won’t be perfect, but stick with it. It’s not magic, but it’s close.