The Secret to Stopping Tantrums: It's Not What You Think

Tip 01

When The Living Room Is a War Zone

I recall a Tuesday evening when the living room seemed like a battleground. It was barely 6 PM, and my three-year-old, Oscar, began what can only be described as an epic tantrum because his favorite dinosaur socks were in the wash. If you haven't experienced such an event, it inv

Alina Boiko
Sep 10 · 5 slides

Tip 02

Recognizing the Real Need

The usual reaction is to think they're just being unreasonable or testing limits. Common advice misses something crucial: often it's about needs that aren't immediately obvious. On this occasion, Oscar needed predictability—something he felt he could count on that evening besides

Tip 03

Why Walking Away Isn't Always Wrong

You'd think ignoring the behavior is cruel—it certainly felt awkward at first—but experts sometimes suggest allowing space for self-regulation while standing nearby as reassurance has merit (you pick up new tactics after enough experiences). Unlike ignoring emotions entirely—whic

Tip 04

The Unexpected Power of Yes

An unexpected piece of advice worked surprisingly well: Saying 'Yes' more often can reduce tantrums dramatically over time. By spending mornings saying yes instead of reflexively defaulting to no, kids gradually learn boundaries within expanded realms they control willingly rathe

Tip 05

Setting Up Simple Choices

Noah prefers yellow plates at breakfast instead of blue ones at dinner thus ensuring smooth transitions during meal times overall ensuring household peace sustains naturally in an easy chaos-free manner consistently predictably reassuringly unerringly ongoing cycles endure succes

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The Secret to Stopping Tantrums: It's Not What You Think
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