The four words are 'What do you need?' They help shift focus from distress to finding a solution.
'Calm down' often escalates frustration. 'What do you need?' encourages empathy and cooperation.
While toddlers may struggle to articulate needs, asking shows empathy and can help them regain composure.
It fosters a cooperative environment, reducing stress and building a stronger parent-child bond.
Use them during tantrums to shift focus from emotions to solutions, promoting calm and understanding.
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The 4 Words That Instantly Calm a Tantrum (And They're Not 'Calm Down')