Tip 01

Thursdays at 5 PM: The Peak of Chaos

Picture this: it's Thursday evening around 5 PM. Your three-year-old, jam-stained fingers and all, decides that drawing on the living room walls is the most compelling activity ever invented. You catch a glimpse of red crayon swirling in fancy loops across your once-white wall. A

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Tip 02

The Phrase That Works (Most of the Time)

I stumbled across a phrase that has done wonders: "What did we learn from this?". Don't get me wrong, I didn't wake up one morning as Yoda; it took trial, error, and a bit too much caffeine. Inserting this question right after acknowledging their feelings can shift focus from cha

Tip 03

Acknowledging Doesn't Mean Agreeing

I admit I still feel ridiculous sometimes when saying this amid screaming fits. But if you've survived a migraine-inducing tantrum at the grocery store (who hasn't?), asking this simple question after calming them down actually leads somewhere productive.

Tip 04

Trying Out Different Phrasing

If "What did we learn from this?" feels too lofty for certain situations, adjust accordingly. Sometimes "How can we do better next time?" works just as well—or better—depending on your kid's personality and mood. One afternoon my son yelled back "No more crayons!" after an incide

Tip 05

Phrasing Is Personal

You know your child best; tailor responses accordingly without worrying about sounding like Mary Poppins every single time because let’s face it—you won’t! Learn more about avoiding common tantrum triggers here. If meltdowns happen publicly too often... / Strategies to calm those

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