Throwing Toys: A Common Toddler Challenge
Your toddler just threw a toy at their sibling. You're worried about possible injuries, and your house feels chaotic. Take a deep breath—you're not alone. Many parents are experiencing the same challenge.
Why Toddlers Throw Toys
Toddlers are still learning how to express their emotions. Sometimes, throwing toys is their way of saying they're upset, excited, or even bored.
Also, a toddler’s impulse control is still developing. They might not fully understand that their actions can hurt others.
3 Steps to Stop Toy Throwing
1. Redirect with Alternative Actions
Instead of saying "Don't throw," offer a positive action.
- Example: Give them a soft ball and say, "Let's throw this ball into the basket."
- Action: Keep a specific set of soft toys for throwing games.
2. Teach Empathy and Consequences
Help them understand how their actions affect others.
- Example: "When you throw toys, it can hurt your brother."
- Action: Role-play with dolls to show gentle actions and consequences.
3. Create a Calm-Down Corner
Designate a safe space for your child to go when they feel upset.
- Example: "Let's take a break in the cozy corner with your favorite book."
- Action: Fill the space with calming items like soft pillows and quiet toys.
Real Scenarios
Situation: Child throws a toy at their sibling.
- What to do: Gently take them aside, squat to their level.
- What to say: "I see you're upset. Let's use our soft ball to play catch."
When it works: Child calms down and engages with the alternative activity.
What to avoid saying:
- "Stop it!"
- "You're being bad!"
Instead, say:
- "Let's find a better way to play."
- "How about a hug for your brother?"
Try This Today
Do this right now:
- Identify a safe spot in your home as the calm-down corner.
- Gather a few soft toys and balls for redirection games.
These steps can make a big difference in your daily routine. With practice, your toddler will learn to express themselves in safer, more positive ways. You've got this!