Start with the Solution

Imagine this: You’re about to start a Zoom call and just as the meeting begins, your child decides it’s time for a drum solo on the living room table. It’s frustrating, I know. Here’s a quick solution that worked for me (well, most days).

Introduce a Special Activity Box: Have a box of toys that’s only for Zoom time. Rotate what’s inside to keep it interesting. This makes it feel new and exciting every time you pull it out. Last week, ours included LEGO pieces and a puzzle that was around 20 pieces big (they're surprisingly engaging).

Why This Happens

Children need connection and predictability, and often choose the most inconvenient times to remind us. During Zoom calls, they're not being difficult just to annoy us (hard truth). They're looking for reassurance and attention.

Practical Solutions

  1. Prep a Play Space: Set up their favorite toys in a quiet corner. Let them help with the setup, which makes them feel involved. I let my kid arrange his dinosaurs like they were in a prehistoric park.

  2. Time Warnings: Give a five-minute warning before your call starts. Say, "In five minutes, I'll need to talk to my friends on the computer. Want to help me set up your play corner?"

  3. Use Headphones: If you have them, consider headphones with a built-in microphone. It reduces background noise for others on the call and lets your kid be a bit noisier than they actually are. (Total lifesaver when my son went into superhero mode.)

  4. Story Time Audio: Play an audiobook they enjoy. It's an easy way to keep them engaged without screen time. My daughter loves "The Gruffalo" read by a lovely British accent at 10 a.m.

Real Scenario Example

Here’s how it worked out last Thursday. My son was eyeing his box of Play-Doh, so I said, "While I talk on the computer here, how about you make me some of your famous Play-Doh pancakes?" He was delighted to show me his creations later (though baking is not his strong suit).

Ending Note

This won’t fix everything, but it should help with today’s call. If your child’s behavior during Zoom calls consistently interferes with daily tasks, consider discussing these challenges with a pediatrician, especially if there might be sensory processing differences at play.

Through trial and error, you’ll find what works for your unique situation. And yes, some days it’ll still feel like an uphill battle — or rather, a playful climb.

References

  • Zero to Three. (2021). Supporting young children during COVID-19. Zero to Three.
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